What is a CoachMentor and What’s the Benefit of Working with one?

What is a CoachMentor and What's the Benefit of Working with one?I’m not good with titles.

When someone asks if I’m a Business Coach or a Life Coach, I say “yes”.

But I qualify that with the statement that I’m really more like a CoachMentor. Or in actual fact…more like Alka Selzer™. I provide relief: a pat on the back, kick in the shins, compassionate strong task-master who’s your neutral objective ally and accountability partner in getting you to where you want to go…faster, easier and with measurable results.

I was recently interviewed for a National magazine. They wanted to learn more about my Olympic background, and my views on mentoring. And although there’s a distinction between coaching and mentoring, I’m definitely a hybrid of the two.

It stems from my athletic coaching background. I always said: “I’m not interested in creating an athlete for a season. I’m interested in developing a human being for life.

And that’s how I look at my role as a CoachMentor to the people I have the privilege of working with. It’s an inside-out job. We work as much on the “human” element as we do on the ostensible business issues.

And I say “ostensible” because it’s rare that the business challenge is actually what the real issue is. More likely, it’s a “human” issue…fear of failure, fear of success (which can be as debilitating as failure), self-imposed barriers, blaming not claiming, feeling alone and isolated, being out of touch with the realities of the business and its employees, or any other myriad of personal/personality/”self” issues that need to be dealt with before the lightbulb goes on. Once we tackle those issues, the solutions to the business problems are almost self-evident.

I say “I’m not a therapist, but the work I do is very therapeutic.”

And that’s why I prefer to think of myself as a CoachMentor because I work with individuals in a holistic way: developing the person and dealing with specific issues. It’s kind of like a closed loop. As the individual becomes more aware of what’s really holding them back or getting in the way, the clearer the solutions to their business problems become.

It’s about taking personal responsibility for the fact that Choice not Chance determines your destiny. And everything’s a choice. Choosing not to choose is a choice.

It’s about doing the work. Not just talking about it, thinking about it or dreaming about it. It’s about rolling up your sleeves, being prepared to take a long, hard look at yourself and your business, accept full responsibility and take action.

It’s about creating a plan with incremental steps and goals  – benchmarks if you will – that will allow for small, manageable, measurable chunks of improvement in everything you do.

It’s about treating your employees with respect, and (over-used word here) empowering them…or more to the point, allowing them to come from their own place of empowerment and self-actualization. We know that carrots and sticks don’t work. Employees want to be valued for the contribution they make. Let them contribute. Hand over the reins by telling them WHAT you want done, not HOW to do it. Micro-management does not empower. Allowing people to flop and fly, learn and grow, does.

It’s about really identifying WHY you’re in business. Easy answer: to make money. But of course! But if you don’t know they ‘why’, the ‘how’ doesn’t matter. Maybe it’s time for you to reflect on why you got into business in the first place, reflect on the chapters you’ve gone through and the chapters yet to come. Heck, it might even be a whole new book!

From now until the end of 2012, I’m offering what is usually my complimentary 30-minute Wanderer Ponderer Power Chat for a full 60-minutes.

If you’re ready to set the stage for tangible, profitable results in 2013, I’d love to chat with you. I guarantee you, it’ll be a blast, and you’ll walk away with loads of actionable advice, not just “feel good fluff”.


  • http://bigleapcreative.com/ Lisa Gerber

    What a great idea – a couchmentor – Love it. We need to be held accountable and many people don’t understand what it takes to move ideas into action. Ideas can be easy – making them happen is the trick. :)

    • http://twitter.com/KDillabough Kaarina Dillabough

      Did you say that on purpose @lisagerber:disqus ? I’m thinking of the visual on that, haha! But I know what you meant, and it’s all about the DO…ideas are a dime a dozen. If I had a penny for every person who said they wished they could be paid for their ideas, I’d be rolling in pennies. Cheers! Kaarina

  • Adam

    This is excellent Kaarina! I tell you, with a little tweaking, I think you could almost turn this into a manifesto.

    What a great offer for people who are looking for a skilled supporter to help them to the next level. I will share it far and wide.

    • http://twitter.com/KDillabough Kaarina Dillabough

      Thanks so much @196e63000c50f5697208930d08b9c297:disqus :) This post literally flew from my fingers, and I like the idea of a “tweaked” manifesto following from it. Big plans are brewing. Thanks for sharing it far and wide: I appreciate it! Cheers! Kaarina

      • http://www.writerightwords.com/ Erin Feldman

        Guess who now has a new project in addition to all the other ones? A manifesto is a great idea.

        • http://twitter.com/KDillabough Kaarina Dillabough

          I have added it to my will-do list:)

  • MrTonyDowling

    I love this Kaarina. Namely the personal responsibility and the work ethic element. It’s often overlooked isn’t it!
    In a quest for strategy and ideas and short cuts, the fact that the ones willing to do the hard yards are the ones that win :)
    Heres one of my favourite pieces of advice: should you work harder or smarter? Why not do both!
    Ill also be sharing, great work!

    • http://twitter.com/KDillabough Kaarina Dillabough

      Thanks @MrTonyDowling:disqus Personal responsibility is paramount, and there’s no short-cutting hard work. I find that, although we’re blessed with more information than any time in the history of the world, we’re also plagued with get-rich-quick, add-water-and-stir solutions. I believe that anyone who’s made their mark in the world in a significant, meaningful way has not avoided the hard work that comes with that. Work smart: work hard. Good advice Tony. Cheers! Kaarina

  • http://twitter.com/BetsyKCross Betsy Cross

    You. Scare. Me! LOL! Seriously. Not as a person but as a coach. I know you could help me so much.My basic problem is stress that phsically and emotionally wears me out and weighs me down. I’m very resistant to putting my life on hold as things work themselves out, but stress has a way of hijacking you no matter what amount of drive you can muster up. So…I’ll look you up for sure when I know that I can really focus! I trust you!

    • http://twitter.com/KDillabough Kaarina Dillabough

      @twitter-286790484:disqus you couldn’t pay higher tribute to me than saying you trust me: I’m honoured. And I’d love to work with you. I know we can accomplish great things together, and I’d be able to provide support, perspective, guidance and “relief”. We’ll work through that stress issue together:) Whenever you’re ready, I’m at your service. Cheers! Kaarina

  • http://newenglandmultimedia.com/ Michelle Quillin

    This is awesome, Kaarina! I just read the article you linked to, https://www.jobpostings.ca/article/olympic-coach-kaarina-dillabough-value-having-mentors, and this caught my eye: “…the mentor’s role is to guide people through transitions.”

    You’re going to get a lot of takers for that Power Chat, with the New Year coming up! Clear your calendar!

    • http://twitter.com/KDillabough Kaarina Dillabough

      I’m hoping that you’re correct @michellequillin:disqus I’d love nothing more than having lots of takers on the Power Chat offer because I’m confident in my ability to help others on their journey. Plus, I LOVE the people I work with, and I LOVE seeing them grow and blossom, and ACHIEVE RESULTS. Cheers! Kaarina

  • http://twitter.com/rdopping Ralph Dopping

    Great message Kaarina. I love both Simon Sinek’s and Daniel Pink’s books Start with Why and Drive which both fit into your message here so very well. I agree with Adam there is a great manifesto in here.

    Great article too. I read the on-line version (hope it was the same). Love that you were published. It’s a great achievement.

    • http://twitter.com/KDillabough Kaarina Dillabough

      Thanks @twitter-229922134:disqus It was such an honour to be included among such great company, and coachmentoring is so dear to my heart. And yes: Sinek and Pink’s books are great. Cheers! Kaarina

  • http://joshuawilner.com/ Josh

    That sounds like as good a description about what you do and why as I have heard you give. Makes a lot of sense to me.

    • http://twitter.com/KDillabough Kaarina Dillabough

      Thanks JJ: it’s taken me some time to realize that by putting it “out there” in my authentic voice, in the way that I speak IRL, was something I should have done long ago. Appreciate your feedback. Cheers! Kaarina

  • http://www.late-bloomers.net Barbara Klein

    This is as much a message, a credo, a manifesto and a mission statement – you come over strong (remember our Skype talk this week and your definition of “strong”?) and powerful,.You have the talent, skills and experience paired with your unique warm hearted personality and the proverbial kick (where was it again? the shin, why does my butt hurt?) to be THE CoachMentor.

    I will share your power message now!

    • http://twitter.com/KDillabough Kaarina Dillabough

      Thanks so much @BarbaraKlein:disqus : your kind words mean so much:) And yes…occasionally that proverbial kick can land a little higher, haha! And I like that…THE CoachMentor…honoured. Cheers! Kaarina

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