The power of stones

CaminoThere’s a story I heard once (I wish I remember where), that happened on a trail called the Camino de Santiago de Compostela in Spain.  For over 1000 years, people have walked this route: some in pilgrimmage, some looking to “find themselves”, some escaping from circumstance or duty and some looking to reconnect with something long lost in themselves.  The story went something like this:

A person walking the trail noticed, with frequency, small piles of stones alongside the trail.  There was no particular order to them, and there really didn’t seem to be a purpose.  The person found another traveller along the trail and asked: “Why are there so many small piles of stones along this trail?”  The person said that these were piles of sorrow stones.  Legend had it that, if you picked up a stone along the way, put all of your worries, fears, sadness or negative thoughts into the stone, and placed it down again somewhere en route, you would leave all your troubles behind.

I wish I knew where I remember the story from, but I don’t.

But ever since then, on every walk or hike I take, I pick up a stone, put any worries I might have into it, and leave it behind me.  The photo here is one of my small “Camino” piles, on one of my favourite hiking trails.  I like to think that, once I’ve put any of my worries into the stone, Mother Earth has a unique way of absorbing and refreshing the stone, such that it harms no one, and is given a “new life” itself; sorrow free…just like me.

Perhaps it is a tall tale I heard.  Perhaps it is silly to think that a stone can absorb and wash away one’s troubles.

But I like the story, and I like the concept.  So I always pick up a stone on my travels, rub it between my fingers, feeling its smoothness or roughness, admiring its shape and colour, all the while placing any negative thoughts into it.  By the time I’m ready to gently place it back down, I have a smile on my face.  It’s very cathartic.  I can’t explain why.  It just is.

Are you carrying burdens on your path in life?  Perhaps you will now leave them on the trail, just like the stones.

Have you heard stories of the Camino de Santiago de Compostela? Please share. And let me know what you think about leaving your troubles behind on your trail.  I tend to sing the song “Pack up all your cares and woe, here I go, singin’ low, bye…bye..blackbird” as I’m walking with my stone.  And if anyone knows of this little story I told…where it came from or who might have told it…I’d love to hear that too!

 

  • http://yoursalesplaybook.com paulcastain

    What a wonderful story and exercise for us to follow Kaarina.

    I have no idea where the story came from but can tell you that thanks to you, I will be giving it a try!

    Respectfully,
    Paul Castain

    • http://www.kaarinadillabough.com Kaarina Dillabough

      Thank you Paul: so great to meet you!  Hope to see you in this neighbourhood regularly: the welcome mat is always out.

      Glad you enjoyed the story: to the power of stones:-)  Cheers!  Kaarina  P.S. Now following you on Twitter and checking out your website @paulcastain:disqus

  • http://billdorman.wordpress.com Bill Dorman

    You’re livin’ the dream, how can you have any burdens?

    I think it’s a great practice; your mind works in mysterious ways and if you are in the right frame of mind for this work then I can absolutely see it working. I would prefer to find coins along the hike however……….

    I have not heard of the stories of the Camino de Santiago de Compostela but guess what; somebody asks me about it now and I’m all over it? Thanks for making me smarter and it even brought a little colour to my cheeks……:)

    Good to see you and thanks for sharing.

    • http://www.kaarinadillabough.com Kaarina Dillabough

      Wow…I’m honoured (yes, Canadian spelling) by your comment.  I am indeed livin’ the dream, and I don’t have any burdens cuz I put them all into stones!

      Seriously, I do use this practice, as well as others I used with my athletes to be sure that worries and burdens, fears and negative thoughts are but fleeting in my world.  I lead a blessed life, and I love to share…it’s that ripple effect!

      And I’m with you on the coins.  I must confess, I’m gleeful when I find a penny on the ground or a 4-leaf clover.  It does not take much to amuse me:-)

      Always great to see you (although I did miss the leopard thong).  Cheers my good friend!  Kaarina

  • http://vizsource.info/ Kim Davies

    Hi, Kaarina.

    This post reminds me of Paulo Coelho’s “By The River Piedra I Sat Down and Wept”, especially the very first part that goes like this:

    “By the river Piedra I sat down and wept. There is a legend that everything that falls into the waters of this river – leaves, insects, the feathers of birds – is transformed into the rocks that make the riverbed. If only I could tear out my heart and hurl it into the current, then my pain and longing will be over, and I could finally forget.”

    This is one of my most favorite books and since the first time I read it years ago, I have loved the idea of crying out my pains and sorrows into the river because once they become part of the riverbed, I can leave them there. This is much like your stones, Kaarina. We don’t  have to carry our burdens always and let them weigh us down. We can find something like your stone and my river to help get the load of. The power to be free of any burdens, sorrows, pains and problems is within our hands.

    Thanks for sharing this, Kaarina. Reminded me not just to read my favorite book again, but also that there is an outlet for every burden that comes my way. :)

    • http://www.kaarinadillabough.com Kaarina Dillabough

      What a beautiful, eloquently stated comment Kim.  Your words are like gems: precious.  I especially love your statement:

      “The power to be free of any burdens, sorrows, pains and problems is within our hands.”

      And now I’m inspired to go out and read “By the River Piedra…”

      Thanks so much for your comment.  May we all leave our burdens in the river, in the stones, in the shells…there is indeed an outlet for every burden that comes our way.

      It also reminds me of the story of two monks on a pilgrimmage.  They come upon a young woman unable to cross a bridge.  The older monk picks her up, carries her across and deposits her on the other side.  The younger monk is appalled at this intimate physical act, and stews and stews about it as the two walk along.  Finally he asks the older monk:

      “How could you carry that woman?  It is against our vows to be in that kind of physical contact.”

      The older monk replies:

      “Son, I carried the woman across a bridge.  You have carried her for miles.”

      Shows that some can carry a burden and let it go, and others just hold on, and hold on to their burdens.

      Here’s to letting them go.  Cheers!  Kaarina

      • http://vizsource.info/ Kim Davies

        Hi, Kaarina.

        Thanks for sharing the story about the two monks. I love it. :)

        • http://www.kaarinadillabough.com Kaarina Dillabough

          Me too @f4443dbf6c8279fa32db2cba7ea46d7b:disqus It’s a story that I think really “says it all” in terms of carrying burdens.  Cheers!  Kaarina

  • http://www.central-e-commerce.com Gabriella – the stepford wife

    I also heard this story before and I’ve heard one where if you are on the beach, pick up a sea-shell, put it to your ear, listen to it, also put your sorrows inside it and toss it in to sea. Well, it’s a spin on the stone idea – I heard the seashell tale ages back. It is a very good concept and quite amazing to think of, too.

    I think everyone should try it – maybe all our sorrows will turn into warmth and positivity and fill the Earth.

    Anyway, have a good weekend. :)

    • http://www.kaarinadillabough.com Kaarina Dillabough

      Thanks Gabriella: love the spin on the story, and I like your vision of all sorrows turning into warmth and positivity, filling the earth.

      Thanks for dropping by and commenting.  Look forward to seeing you again soon.  Have a fab weekend yourself:-)  Cheers!  Kaarina

  • http://www.thejackb.com/ The JackB

    I hadn’t heard that story before. I have done a lot of hiking and used stones to mark the trail but this was new to me.

    The question I often ask myself is what do I need to do to let go of things from the past that hold me be back.

    • http://www.kaarinadillabough.com Kaarina Dillabough

      Good introspective question to ask: the answer, and the letting go…even more important.

      I also do a visualization whereby I’m walking along a beach or a trail, carrying bags of luggage.  As I continue to walk, I gently set down each bag, with its “past” or negative baggage within, and continue to walk.  I don’t look back.  I just let go.

      Although we might be somewhat products of our past, I think it’s far more true that we are creators of our future.  Cheers!  Kaarina

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  • http://markharai.com Mark Harai

    Actually I have a terrible memory… it has served me well in many ways and in some, not so well.

    When somebody does me wrong for example, after about a day I never remember it anymore, hence I don’t hold resentments or unforgivingness… The bad side of that coin is some folks have taken advantage of that forgiving nature. 

    I tend to spend most of my time in the moment getting things done or pondering my future; where it is I desire to be. 

    Now that I think about it, there are some things in my past that I do need to rub into some stones and perhaps chuck into the deep blue sea.

    You always get me thinking Kaarian : )

    • http://www.kaarinadillabough.com Kaarina Dillabough

      Glad to be part of sparking that thinking and introspection Mark.

      You are wise to let go of “wrongs”.  Far better to not hold resentments or unforgivingness.  When we don’t forgive, we actually punish ourselves.  The “wrong-doer” usually goes along their merry way, not giving a care in the world.  We can be our own worst enemy when we hold onto toxic unforgivingness or resentment.

      And people do, and will, take advantage of those whose hearts are big and forgiving.  But I’d rather be vulnerable to that, than to possess a heart of stone.

      I like the image of you chucking those stones into the sea.  I see you doing so with a big smile on your face:)

      Keep well, my friend: you inspire me.  Cheers!  Kaarina

      • http://markharai.com Mark Harai

        I would much rather be vulnerable to that too Kaarina — possessing a heart of stone is a tragic way to experience life with…

        Cheers my dear! 

        • http://www.kaarinadillabough.com Kaarina Dillabough

          Could not agree with you more, Mark.  Sending smiles, songs and sunshine your way.

  • Eajokinen

    Love it .. allowing a stone to share its beauty and solidity with you sounds like a wonderful idea to me. Especially when it allows you to share and allow the stone to capture and rid you of any negative feelings you may have.

    • http://www.kaarinadillabough.com Kaarina Dillabough

      So very true.  May we all carry stones for just a brief time, to be left on our trails, wherever we go.  Cheers!  Kaarina

  • http://www.msbuddha.com/ Maya @ Ms Buddha

    What a very lovely ritual… than can help!  I have heard of the trail… Shirley MacLaine walked it and wrote a book about it called “The Camino
    A Journey of the Spirit”. I meant to read it, but then never did.

    • http://www.kaarinadillabough.com Kaarina Dillabough

      Thanks so much for linking my post on your site.  I really appreciate it! And I appreciate your mention of the book.  I’m going to be sure to read it.  I know there are many wonderful stories about the Camino, but I love the stones ones best.  I’m now following you on Twitter, and I hope you’ll drop by this neighbourhood again soon.  We need to get you a gravatar, though, so we can connect more in person.  Check out http://en.gravatar.com/ and grab yours today:)  Cheers, and thanks for your comments and dropping by.  Kaarina

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