10 Tips to Build your Personal Brand

10 Tips to Build your Personal BrandMany years ago, Tom Peters said:

“To be in business today, our most important job is to be head marketer for the brand called you…. You’re not defined by your job title and you’re not confined by your job description. Starting today, you are a brand.”

But how do you find, express and articulate your brand? Is it what you wear…what you say…what you stand for?

I’m going to say it has a lot to do with your VAB: your Values, Attitudes and Beliefs. It’s the innate, core “stuff” that’s an inside-out job, that springs from your very soul and manifests itself in how you do what you do. Not just what you do…but how you do it…how you say it…how you express it.

Now the funny thing about a personal brand is that it’s really about building it based on a solid foundation (you),  not creating it from scratch.

Your personal brand is really all about you, and you already exist.

It’s not like putting on a suit. You don’t put your brand on in the morning and take it off at night. You live it.

You are authentic.

Oh yes…I can hear the groans over that over-used but in actual fact, most excellent word.

I looked up the word authentic, and here are some of the meanings:

  • not false or imitation
  • true to one’s own personality, spirit or character
  • genuine
  • lack of falsehood or misrepresentation
  • innate nature or character

And it’s the last meaning, “innate nature or character” that I believe best describes what authenticity is all about. And what your personal brand is all about.

It’s all about soul…core…heart. You don’t manufacture it. You ARE it.

You shouldn’t need to “become” your brand. You should BE your brand. Everything you do to express that, enhance that and demonstrate that should flow naturally from who you are and what you stand for. In the words of Geil Browning: “Brand you” is the sum of your innate strengths and preferences that are locked into your genes and etched into your brain. It is the way you think and the habits you have, the way your mind processes information and the manner in which you explain your ideas.”

Your personal brand should emanate from who you are: an inside-out manifestation, not an outside-in crafting of a false persona. People can see through a false persona quickly. They know when someone’s as phony as a $3 bill. You can’t fake “real”…at least, not for long.  Especially today, with all the platforms and opportunities we engage upon.

When I connect with you, are you one person on facebook, another on linkedin, another on twitter and yet another in real life?

Are you always “you”, or are you an actor on a stage, changing costume and mask depending upon where you are?

Are you consistent? If McDonald’s brand is to provide the exact same hamburger whether you’re in Toledo or Tokyo, are you the same brand regardless of platform? Your brand is what others think of you, but it’s based on who you show them. If you show them someone who puts on a “brand” in the morning and takes it off at night, it’s likely you’ll one day get found out. Does “who you are” meld congruently with what you do?

And of course, you will do things to enhance or project that brand. But that should be easy. It should flow naturally, because being “you” is exactly what you do best. And your image, or brand, isn’t about what you think of yourself. It’s what others think of you. There’s a wonderful phrase of Robin Sharma‘s that goes something like this:

“It’s not important what I say. It’s what you think after I stop talking that’s important.”

To quote from the Harvard Business Review: “No one can be authentic by trying to imitate someone else. You can learn from others’ experiences, but there is no way you can be successful when you are trying to be like them…you need to be who you are.” And we can all take a lesson from Kermit the Frog on that:)

So what are my top 10 tips to Build your Personal Brand?

1.Be consistent in word and deed.

2. Keep your promises.

3. Apologize when you offend, hurt or don’t deliver what someone expected.

4. Stay true to your values, attitudes and beliefs.

5. Know what’s right and wrong for you and don’t cross the line.

6. Acknowledge and learn from mistakes. Don’t make them a second time.

7. Say what you mean and mean what you say, but be sure that the receiver of your message receives it as you meant it.

8. Be sure that everything you emanate is congruent and consistent with brand “you”.

9. It’s “in the eye of the beholder”, so solve others’ problems and be of service. Provide (here comes another over-used but excellent word) value.

10. Love yourself. Be the best you that you can be. In the words of Abraham Maslow: “It looks as if there were a single ultimate goal for mankind, a far goal toward which all persons strive. This is called variously by different authors self-actualization, self-realization, integration, psychological health, individuation, autonomy, creativity, productivity, but they all agree that this amounts to realizing the potentialities of the person, that is to say, becoming fully human, everything that person can be.”

 

 

  • http://twitter.com/rdopping Ralph Dopping

    Hey Kaarina,

    i left a comment here via LinkedIn and it evaporated. Hmmmmm……signs. Anywhooo, I asked whether having a chameleon as a mascot was NOT a good idea then?

    The best way for me to sum up my feelings about your post is a quote by Maya Angelou that I love:

    I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel

    Great piece.

    • http://twitter.com/KDillabough Kaarina Dillabough

      Thanks @twitter-229922134:disqus : I hope you feel great! (Don’t know about the evaporating comment, but I’m glad you made a second successful attempt:) Cheers! Kaarina

  • http://twitter.com/bdorman264 Bill Dorman

    Love yourself? Ha, I would marry me if I could……….:).

    At my core, I feel I am very consistent; you will know my values and what I hold dear relatively quickly. However, when I’m out w/ my buds I might act differently with them than I would when we are out with couples. Not much different, but it will be different. The core values will be consistent………….depending on how much alcohol is involved………….:). Just kidding…………kind of……………

    For as much as I want to show, and I have a tendency to show too much; what you see is what you get. I prefer that from others as well.

    • http://twitter.com/KDillabough Kaarina Dillabough

      I do believe I’ve seen some photos of you out with your buds @twitter-34985693:disqus . Just kidding…I’ve only been able to visualize you running around in your burger king crown and thong on the golf course:)

      And I do believe I hear wedding bells…Cheers! Snowshoes

  • http://twitter.com/Soulati Jayme Soulati

    Girl, it’s always good to be reminded that the core of what we do online begins with the heart. Authenticity cannot be faked; people cannot be fooled. Those who try too hard will take five steps backward and stay there.

    • http://twitter.com/KDillabough Kaarina Dillabough

      I agree. Cheers! Kaarina

  • http://markharai.com Mark Harai

    Consistency is key Kaarina; those folks who you are ‘suppose’ to connect with will become very clear if you’re consistently trure to yourself.

    Cheers miss!

    • http://twitter.com/KDillabough Kaarina Dillabough

      You are so right on that @markharai:disqus . Cheers! Kaarina

  • http://barrettrossie.com/ Barrett Rossie

    Well done Kaarina! Sometimes there seems to be a conflict between being true to yourself and not being what others want you to be. But learning how to deal with this is called “maturity” I think.

    As Mr. Emerson said: “What you do speaks so loudly I cannot hear what you say.”

    • http://twitter.com/KDillabough Kaarina Dillabough

      That’s a great quote @barrett_rossie:disqus . It’s akin to the (paraphrased) “people won’t forget how you made them feel.” Cheers! Kaarina

    • http://twitter.com/RebeccaAmyTodd Rebecca Amy Todd

      Excellent quote, @barrett_rossie:disqus.

  • http://jacobyount.com/ Jacob Yount

    Do I act the same way when my customers or potential clients are in the room vs. when they are not around? Do I have different attitudes for different folks and find myself constantly playing different roles?

    The 10pt-list you gave us are some high standards; we should all strive, regardless of our position to uphold them. Thanks for making us think and work harder, Kaarina.

    • http://twitter.com/KDillabough Kaarina Dillabough

      Thanks for that lovely comment @jacobyount:disqus . High standards are the right standards, in my book, and I’m delighted if I prompted some thought and hard work:) Cheers! Kaarina

  • http://joshuawilner.com/ Josh

    Popeye comes to mind. I Yam what I yam and that is all that I yam.

    • http://twitter.com/KDillabough Kaarina Dillabough

      I’m sending spinach @TheJoshuaWilner:disqus

  • http://www.vidyasury.com/ Vidya Sury

    I follow the WYSIWYG principle – what you see is what you get. And you are right about there being no shame in being oneself, especially when one’s values, attitudes and beliefs are decent. Actually, it is very hard to project something we’re not – it takes much more effort :-) and oh, the pressure of sustaining it quickly leads to stress and all the “unhappies” associated with it.

    When Vidur was in the second or third grade, he forgot to take something he was supposed to, to school. Apparently quite a few kids didn’t bring the stuff, but when the teacher asked the class – some of these guys did not own up. Our man did, of course. The teacher graded the students – and those who did not bring their work, got less marks. So Vidur came home and told his Grandma what happened. And sounded shocked about how some of his classmates had lied and gotten away with it. So my Mom playfully asked him why he didn’t. After all, it meant a better grade. Vidur’s response to this was very gratifying – he said he did not want dishonest marks, and that he would rather fail than cheat. He also said that whenever he thought of it, he would feel sad and that he preferred happy. :D

    Thank you for a wonderful read. Those ten tips can be engraved in stone. Love, Vidya

    • http://twitter.com/KDillabough Kaarina Dillabough

      That is a wonderful example of how values, instilled at an early age, are worth more than any grade in school or any amount of money @vidyasury:disqus . You should be (and I know you are) very proud of Vidur.

      I prefer happy too! Cheers! Kaarina

  • http://twitter.com/RebeccaAmyTodd Rebecca Amy Todd

    Thoughtful post Kaarina! There is little more disappointing than when you interact with someone in the virtual and think they are great, then meet them in person only to discover a very different personality. I also love that you included definitions of authentic for the buzz-word haters!

    • http://twitter.com/KDillabough Kaarina Dillabough

      So great to see you here @twitter-257989881:disqus . It was great to meet you in person in Toronto…hope that wasn’t a disappointment;) And yes…I thought I best include some definitions because the buzz words are becoming what I call “plastic” words…words that mean everything and nothing. Cheers! Kaarina

  • http://cirquedumot.com/new-readers/ Susan Silver

    Actually, I was just reading about something similar in “quiet” where she discusses how extroversion became the norm. Beyond that she points out how this idea of personal branding started and why it continues. Not saying it is good or bad, but to highlight the importance of being true to your values. I think your tips over all show the importance of showing respect and compassion. I won’t argue with that.

    • http://twitter.com/KDillabough Kaarina Dillabough

      Thanks for weighing in on that @susan_silver:disqus . Being true to one’s values is key to me:) Cheers! Kaarina

  • Lisa Tener

    I love the last point–a very fresh look at branding. It’s not about trying to be lovable, but we are lovable and love ourselves when we’re being ourselves.

    • http://twitter.com/KDillabough Kaarina Dillabough

      Could not say it any better @8ab1c86a14150409edac7cc343d89060:disqus . Cheers! Kaarina

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