Want Business? Every person is one of these

ConnectionsHave you ever watched someone turn on the charm or behave differently when they’re in front of a potential customer or client, as opposed to how they behave “normally”?  Have you ever seen a sales clerk flash a smile at the well-heeled customer, while casting eyes down at the blue jeans-clad teenager?

One of my favourite scenes comes from the movie “Pretty Woman“. Julia Roberts first enters a high-end clothing shop and gets the cold shoulder from the snooty clerks who diss and dismiss her.  She later returns, dressed to the 9′s, arms full of purchases from other high-end stores, breezes in and says:

“Hi: do you remember me?”

“No, I’m sorry.”

“I was in here yesterday. You wouldn’t wait on me.  You work on commission, right?”

“Ah, yes”

“Big mistake. Big. Huge.”

I. LOVE. THAT. SCENE. Not just because Julia gets her day, but because it points out so beautifully how business should NOT be done.

Do you and your employees realize that every single person you come into contact with is at least one of the following:

Customer/Client

Champion

Ambassador

Connector

Supplier

Let’s look at each one:

Customer/Client - You can be sure that the person who cut you off in traffic and you then flipped the bird to is likely to be the very potential client you were speeding to meet with.  Or the person who rammed their shopping cart into your achilles at the grocery store, and you turned and reamed off a blue streak of venom will show up in your shop the next day.  We need to realize that every moment of every day we are connecting with, slicing by, ignoring or paying attention to potential customers and clients.  Just because they haven’t come into your store (yet), or they’re not in your business environment, doesn’t mean that they aren’t prospective or existing customers.  Flip the bird at your peril.

Champion - This is someone who, even without asking, champions your cause or your business.  They’re so jazzed by what you do for them that they use every tool and opportunity available to sing your praises.  And with the tools of social media, they can broadcast your benefits to the world.  Champions are often your best customers; the ones you treat well, pay attention to and serve.  And shouldn’t we strive to make all of our customers our champions?

Ambassador – This person is your emissary: someone to whom you’ve “done the ask”.  You’ve asked them to provide a testimonial, spread the good word, write an article about you or, in some way, let others know of the value and service you provide.  They might not even be or become a customer, but they are prepared to let others know of you and your business because they believe in you, in what you do, and you’ve ASKED them to.

Connector - Connectors are people who love nothing more than introducing people they “know, like and trust” to others of similar interest, business or opportunity.  Connectors often don’t need to be asked: they just love connecting people together!  You never know when someone will offer an introduction to another who can benefit you and your business.

Supplier – The world is full of people who can supply us with goods and services, support and information vital to our business and our lives.  All you have to do is “put it out there”. Maybe you’re looking for someone who supplies left-handed scissors, corrugated paper or bulk tongue depressors…whatever you might need, there’s someone(s) out there who can supply it…and often you find them when you aren’t really looking.

What’s it all add up to?  When we fail to realize that every single person we meet, interact with, ignore, offend or flip the bird to is one of the above, we miss opportunity.  And opportunities missed add up to business unrealized, friendships unencountered and possibilities that vaporize.

Are you recognizing that everyone you meet is “one of these”?  Turn up the volume on your everyday, everywhere, all-the-time awareness and your marketing will take a giant step forward.

 

  • http://twitter.com/John_Trader1 John Trader

    Great post Kaarina, and a reminder to all of us that we should temper ourselves lest we forget that the world is an unusually small place and you never know who will turn out to be the next big sale, advocate, evangelist or key partner.

    Kind of gives new meaning to the word “tolerance” doesn’t it?  

    • http://www.kaarinadillabough.com Kaarina Dillabough

      So true, John.  I always said to my kids:

      “No matter where I am in the world, somebody knows somebody who knows mommy”, so if you’re thinking of telling me a fib that you think I won’t hear about…think again.  The world is a hugely connected and, in your words, “unusually small place”. 

      “You never know….”  Cheers!  Kaarina

  • http://twitter.com/gingerconsult Jen Olney

    Kaarina, So true. Everyone is a potential client. It’s so important that we are all authentic and display our real character every day, everywhere. You never know who you will meet online or off the grid that will be your next client. As aside from business, it is the relationships that we will build that are so key to all that we do in this life. I have one speed – ME. I am who I am. I truly do not believe in having two faces for anyone. This is great advice. Thanks for sharing.

    • http://www.kaarinadillabough.com Kaarina Dillabough

      Jen, I LOVE your comment, “I have one speed – ME.”  That is so genuine, so you, and so what we should all be! 

      Two-faced (or three or four-faced) behaviour just doesn’t cut it in my books.  And as you say…because you never know who you will meet (or bump into, literally) online or off, you risk so much by paying attention to only the A-lister, A-crowd or person who you think is “important”.

      I say: here’s to one-facedness and, in your words, “one speed – ME”.  Cheers!  Kaarina

  • http://billdorman.wordpress.com Bill Dorman

    Ah, sounds like you have been the bird flipper and shopping cart person, huh?

    True story, one of my best friends back in the day was doing delivery for a parts supply company. End of the day and wanting to really get back to the office, he gets behind this pokey ass driver. I mean he’s riding the bumper, looks like a Nascar driver trying to make the pass. Finally, he spots a small opening and zooms past. He has his hand in the air ready for the one finger salute and realizes it’s my dad. He quickly throws him the wave with all figures, but you just never know. Later, I asked my dad about it and he was totally oblivious. My father was a notorious slow driver.

    If your motto is to treat ‘everyone’ just like you would want to be treated, then you should never have to worry, right? I tried that at our office; I wanted to be sexually harassed so I start harassing some of the ladies………………that didn’t go over so well. I didn’t know someone could actually have a restraining order on you when you work in the same building.

    End of the day? Just do the right thing. NOBODY is better than anybody else. Your funeral might look better than mine, but guess what? We are both still dead………….just sayin’…..

    • http://www.kaarinadillabough.com Kaarina Dillabough

      Bill, just when I think you’re going to make a seriously serious comment, you blow me out of the water with your “unique” sense of timing and humour.  Some things I just don’t have a response for:)

      No, I’ve never flipped the bird or sworn like a sailor (OK, perhaps I’m fibbing a bit on the latter), but I’ve used these examples in my business training and with clients to get them to realize the potential impact of their actions.

      “Just do the right thing. NOBODY is better than anybody else.”  Wise words, my invisible (not) friend.  Cheers!  Kaarina

  • http://www.grownupnowwhat.com Tammy

    That is a wonderful scene … and you have a wonderful message.

    It’s easy to pigeon hole people based on often erroneous first impressions.  Everyone we meet is an opportunity to expand our business or our personal sphere of influence.  

    Treating everyone with patience and respect pays off.  We feel better about ourselves, and we never now where our next referral is coming from

    • http://www.kaarinadillabough.com Kaarina Dillabough

      Thanks for dropping by, Tammy, and if I might ask…what brought you to my blog?  I’ve now followed you on Twitter, and look forward to reading your blog too!

      They say a first impression is made in the first 10 seconds, and 90% of it’s visual.  And although that might be true, reserving judgement, and “treating everyone with patience and respect” (and perhaps holding our tongues for a nanosecond:) definitely is wise.

      Thanks for commenting, Tammy: I hope to see you around these parts often:)  Cheers!  Kaarina

  • http://soulati.com/blog Soulati

    Girl, you real got it going on with this post. Love the categories and construct of this post. And, it made me think to my first soccer practice last night with a new group of girls and moms. Turns out one mom doesn’t know me, but we’ve seen one another around school for the last four years; she’s not too happy I’m coaching her daughter. Why? I have no idea; could be something I did as PTO president (the year I was too naive to understand); could be a comment I made somewhere else she didn’t like.

    Now, I’ll be on pins and needles trying win her sensitivities over as I create a relationship with 10 8-9 year olds in the name of teamwork.

    We NEVER know when we’ll meet someone again, and our home life/school life communities are probably more fraught with challenges like this than we know.

    Now get back to the oral surgeon and see what gives with that tooth! My gosh; it’s been too long!

    • http://www.kaarinadillabough.com Kaarina Dillabough

      Perfect “real-world” example of how we might have made some type of impression on someone, and we don’t know when/where that happened.  But for heaven’s sake…don’t be on pins and needles about it.  Why not ask her (privately) in a non-confrontational way, something to the effect of : “I sense there’s some type of tension here between us, or that I’ve done something you’re not happy with.  I’d really like to correct that, if that’s the case.  Can we chat about it?”….or some such thing.  Sometimes we take it upon our shoulders to believe that someone’s reaction to us is about us, when in fact it could be totally unrelated….worth pursuing, I believe.

      And I’ve been back to to the oral surgeon: things will improve, but not as quickly as I’d like.  Cheers!  Kaarina

  • Tom Redwine

    Such a good post, and I love the categories (special love to the “Ambassador”). You just never know what role someone may play in the next scene of your life.

    And Jen, thumbs up on “I have one speed = ME!” You should totally sell the T-shirt. 

    • http://www.kaarinadillabough.com Kaarina Dillabough

      Thanks, Tom, for stopping by: great to see you here.

      And YES…T-shirts!…and cake! Cheers! Kaarina

  • Erica Allison

    You just never know, do you? I am a total believer in this approach.  I despise road rage and am appalled when the people (ahem, my husband) I’m with exhibit those items (i.e., the flip, blowing the horn for something other than safety).  It sets a bad example for those around us, namely our children or other people we may be unknowingly mentoring.  That could be another category: student or apprentice.  People learn by watching our behavior.  Even if someone isn’t obviously in the role of apprentice or student, you just never know what they’re looking for or who they are watching.  

    Great post, Kaarina!

    • http://www.kaarinadillabough.com Kaarina Dillabough

      Thanks Erica: I really like the reminder that this equally (if not more) applies to children, students and apprentices.  The old “do what I say, not what I do” just does NOT cut muster with me…actions speak louder than words, and we never know who’s watching.  Thanks for dropping by and commenting, Erica:)  Cheers!  Kaarina

    • http://pioneeroutfitters.com/AlaskaChickBlog/ Amber-Lee Dibble

      Reminds me, brings to mind, the song They Don’t Understand by Sawyer Brown

    • http://www.thejackb.com/ The JackB

      @47d58be98d1441a276245024c9457dbf:disqus  Try living in a city like LA- our traffic has a very unique impact upon your patience and vocabulary. ;)

  • http://twitter.com/TranscripESvcs Alicia M. Jay

    Hey Kaarina!

    That’s a great scene from Pretty Woman. I LOVE that movie. Just another thing that connects us;)

    My parents came across a similar situation when I was very little and they were buying a new house. I was too young to remember, but they told me about it later in life. At that time, I would say my parents were lower-middle class. It was the late 70′s and they entered a furniture store wearing their everyday hippie attire. A salesman came over to help them. As they explained what they were looking for, another couple entered the store that caught the salesman’s eye.  The woman was wearing a fur coat and the man an expensive suit. The salesman excused himself from my parents and rushed right over to this new couple. My parents quickly realized what was happening and left the store in disgust. Little did that salesman know, my parents had a pocket full of cash. They saved everything they had to buy all of the furniture for their brand-new home.

    I know this story was long, but it just proves that you never know. We should treat everyone we meet with respect. You never know who might be a potential customer, cheerleader or networker for your business!

    • http://www.kaarinadillabough.com Kaarina Dillabough

      Not a long story at all, Alicia: exactly the length and type of story that illustrates the point…”Big mistake. Big. Huge.”

      We actually had a similar situation when we were building our home.  We went into a meeting with a prospective contractor, and as I was asking questions, he kept turning to my husband to answer.  Needless to say, after about 5 minutes of this, my husband and I got up and took our business elsewhere.  “Big mistake. Big. Huge.” :)

      Thanks for sharing your story, and yay!…another Pretty Woman pal.  Cheers!  Kaarina

      • http://twitter.com/TranscripESvcs Alicia M. Jay

        Oh, don’t even get me started on the people who only look at my husband to make all the decisions. Aargh! I think my husband knows the drill by now. When he starts to see the smoke coming out of my ears, it’s time to leave:)

  • http://www.expatlifecoach.com/blog John Falchetto

    Great post Kaarina. Yes every person we come into contact can be one of these. I think we should also never forget that people can move from one category to the next very quickly. If a person doesn’t buy from you today does it mean they will never be a client? Why not have them be an ambassador until then.
    You have a knack to clearly differentiate between all these complex categories. Well done.

    • http://www.kaarinadillabough.com Kaarina Dillabough

      Excellent point! Absolutely -  there is fluidity between and among categories, and someone might even fit them all.  You hit it out of the park by reminding us of that:)  Cheers!  Kaarina

  • http://pioneeroutfitters.com/AlaskaChickBlog/ Amber-Lee Dibble

    Kaarina, as one of the classiest Ladies I know, you continuously remind me how and why… everything! Kaarina, what seems to be a lesson in manners, is really what each and every single one of us needs to remember.

    When I read something like this, (and please, remember I am still, or maybe it’s finally, growing and I absolutely love my group of humans that help ME keep me and my business in line and order!) it makes me feel like just saying “Grow Up.” To individuals that create the need for posts like this. (Does that make any sense?)

    Like many others, I am sure, I couldn’t wait to grow up. Get away from mean and small minded people…of course, remember I was a very young teenager in a group 2-3 years older than myself… but now? For years? What I tell young folks dealing with different dramas, “It’s always high school, it’s up to you to do what’s right.” Seriously. Gossip, cliquey little groups of “the beautiful people”, back stabbing, full grown people cheating, stealing, lieing…

    My mouth is what gets me into the most trouble. Between the barn, the Navy, the booze and bars, and living with “The Boys”, boy do I sure have an arsenal to pull from…my mind blanks and I’ve had 240 lb 6’6″ men backing up as fast as they can. It takes a whole pile of really bad moves to get my dander up (or scaring me over one of my children), but I completely black-out and loose time when it trips me up.

    We’ve spent so much time talking music lately online, I have to say… I try to ALWAYS remember- you DON’T know what is really happening in someone else’s life. Not even your closest friend. You are not inside someone else’s mind where hurts and wounds live, you are not in their bedroom, and no matter how close, you don’t live inside their deepest fears, you don’t have their heart inside you. Nobody can do that for anyone.

    I would add forgiveness to tolerance. I am not for “Loving Everyone” (bla), but we do have to show folks our respect… for ourselves. If you have no respect for yourself (Truth, Honor, Integrity), you will have none for others.

    “Be Who You Say You Are”  ~Right?

    • http://www.kaarinadillabough.com Kaarina Dillabough

      WOW…Amber-Lee, you’ve blown me away with your comment: so full of life and stories and perspective and…wow!  And thanks for calling me a classy lady: I like that:)

      I think your point about not knowing what’s really happening in someone else’s life is so spot on.  I do a lot of work with youth, who seem to always internalize that the behaviour of one person is a direct attack or reflection on them.  Sometimes, that other person’s just had a bad day, and they’re taking it out on you…it really hasn’t got anything to do with you: you just happen to be in their presence…they’re the “man in the boat” (see story below)

      At the risk of creating a too-long comment, this little story sums up your point about  ASSumptions quite nicely.

      “A man rowed a small boat upstream, heading toward home, when he felt another boat collide with his.  Since he felt he had the right of way, he yelled, “Hey, watch where you’re going”.

      The other boater apologized, and passed without incident. 

      And hour later, as the man continued upstream, he felt another boat collide with his.  Furious, he turned to yell at the reckless person.  His anger vanished when he saw that the boat was empty – it must have come loose from its moorings.

      The man never lost his temper again, or made “instant judgements”, because from then on, he treated everyone like an empty boat.” – unknown

      Let’s remember that every person who “wrongs us” might simply be an empty boat.  Cheers!  Kaarina

  • http://www.whatlittlethings.com Samantha Bangayan

    Kaarina, what a beautiful introduction to your thoughts and wisdom! My friend, Kim Davies, highly recommended that I meet you and get to know your “golden heart” — now I see why! =)

    This is such a key lesson and an approach that I’ve always taken with life. I’ll always remember the cleaning lady I met at international development workshops I was attending in Eastern Canada. Everyone wondered why I wasn’t taking advantage of every possible second to connect with the global development specialists there, but I always find value in every single person I meet. 
    In fact, I don’t think that cleaning lady fits into any of your above categories, at least not yet. Instead, she was an inspirer. She gave me a glimpse of the world in a different way and moved me to continue following my dreams.

    Anyhow, I really appreciate you encouraging us to reflect on this, Kaarina! I so look forward to staying in touch! =)

    • http://www.kaarinadillabough.com Kaarina Dillabough

      So great to meet you, Samantha!  And Kim…thanks for being the Connector here:)

      I love your statement, “I always find value in every single person I meet”, and wholeheartedly agree.  We can learn something, gain something and give something in each and every contact we make.

      Now following you on Twittter and we’re now connected on facebook.  I see you have several blogs, and I’m headed over to the yellowbrickroad…I’m a HUGE Wizard of Oz fan!  And hey…we’re fellow Canucks as well!  Thanks for dropping by, and I look forward to staying in touch.  Cheers!  Kaarina

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  • http://hajrak.blogspot.com Hajra

    I don’t know about being the supplies, but as a customer I can totally relate! It is just about being nice and actually listening to what THEY want and not what you want to give them. Really, it gets me so irritated sometimes! I want A and they are busy selling me why…I mean really? why go through the trouble, no matter how much you try all those fancy words, I am never going to be wrapped around that little marketing finger of yours… just as well, dance to my tunes! ;)

    • http://twitter.com/KDillabough Kaarina Dillabough

      I agree: dance to the tune of the customer, listen twice as much as you speak, and realize that every person you come into contact with is IMPORTANT:)  Cheers!  Kaarina

  • http://www.marianneworley.com Marianne Worley

    I try think that any one person I’m communicating with could lead me to a new business opportunity or this could be the start of an amazing new friendship.  Many businesses need to remember that the person they shun today might have strong buying power tomorrow. It’s easiest just to treat everyone well!

    Thanks for sharing Kaarina.

    • http://twitter.com/KDillabough Kaarina Dillabough

      Marianne, you are so right: by treating everyone well (and isn’t that what we should do, regardless?) we open up possibilities in business and in life.  Cheers!  Kaarina

  • http://aks-blog.com Ashvini Saxena

    Hi Kaarina,

     These are some interesting classifications. I like the way you have talked about the scene from the movie. These days , companies trumpet so much about customer service only to run away when customer needs them the most. Infact at that time they not only lose a customer but probably an ambassador or a connector.
    It is difficult to explain to them that they need to listen closely to what customers are trying to say and that they are trying to connect with it. The result is as you said “lost opportunity”

    Thanks for sharing

    • http://twitter.com/KDillabough Kaarina Dillabough

      Thanks, Ashvini, for dropping by and commenting.  And I agree: lots of companies “talk” about customer service, but don’t deliver it…they don’t walk their talk.  And when we don’t see the people around us as “valuable”, there are many lost opportunities, in business and in life.  Cheers!  Kaarina

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